This week acknowledges Mental Health Awareness Week here in Aotearoa, New Zealand, a chance to check in with both our own mental health and that of those around us. This year's theme is one that resonates closely with us here at INSIDE, with people and connection being at our core: "Reconnect - with the people and places that lift you up, hei pikinga waiora".
We have connected with Umbrella - a company that specialises in workplace wellbeing and resilience - to share a helpful article that contains some practical things you can try to help strengthen your relationships and reconnect with your loves ones. We have built a close relationship with Umbrella over the past few years, and have found their work to be beneficial in ensuring our team are thriving.
We hope you find this information useful this Mental Health Awareness Week, and encourage you this week in particular to focus on reconnecting with the people and places that lift you up.
MENTAL HEALTH AWARENESS WEEK 2022
Feeling connected to others is an absolute human need. Social psychologists call this connection “embeddedness”. Holding a strong sense of embeddedness with people who are important to us is highly protective when we are coping with difficult experiences. Conversely, there are many studies which have tragically demonstrated how the lack of loving connection interferes with children’s development, including brain development.
From psychological and neurological research, we know that from early childhood through to adulthood, our brains actually link with those of the people close to us. This connecting process positively alters the hardware of our brains, establishes life-long emotional patterns, and makes us, in large part, who we are.
Researchers such as Barbara Fredrickson and Esther Sternberg have identified that our connections to others evoke emotions that affect our hormonal reactions, our nerve chemicals and our immune responses – and, through these, our resistance or susceptibility to stress and illness.
Sternberg writes that our “social world can activate the stress response, or it can tone it down. The effects of these personal connections can be more soothing than an hour of meditation. They can also be as stressful, and more long-lived, as running at top speed for twenty minutes on a treadmill. In fact, of all the sensory signals that impinge on us from moment to moment throughout the day, it is the ones connected in some way to another person that can trigger our emotions most intensely.”
How can we best manage these connections to ensure we have more of the soothing interactions rather than the treadmill ones?
Practically, strengthening relationships is likely to mean prioritising them:
Thinking about strengthening the quality of your relationships, there are key factors supported by psychological research that can help us to do this:
1. Introduce novelty
Get out of ruts and do something new together. For a professional relationship this could mean meeting to talk in a different café or walking a different route together. In a personal relationship try doing something you haven’t done before or take turns at surprising the other person with a new activity you can share together.
2. Increase your experiences of positive emotion together
Experiment with different ways you can experience more joy, gratitude, appreciation, elation, excitement or calmness together. With a colleague this could be celebrating a success together; with a friend, enjoying a shared hobby.
3. Try to maintain eye contact
Eye contact stimulates the social-network circuits in your brain, decreases the stress hormone cortisol, and increases oxytocin, a hormone that enhances connection. Looking at the person’s face will also help you notice expressions and emotions even though they may last only briefly.
4. Practise noticing what you appreciate about the other person and your relationship together
Tell them or show them how you appreciate them, express your thanks and pay attention to anything they do differently that you like. Experiment with how often you show appreciation – is daily better than weekly?
We hope you find this information helpful and a reminder to reconnect with loved ones not only this Mental Health Awareness Week, but in every day life.
Check out the information and resources available through Umbrella on their website, and please don't hesitate to reach out and reconnect with us here at INSIDE.